My family recently got home from a holiday in Vanuatu. It was both heavenly and confronting! It has taken me two Pit Stops and three days of digesting or processing. I’m definitely better now because my diarrhoea is gone and I’m feeling great again!

Rather than rave on about my trip and what I was questioning (basically how the NiVan are being taken advantage of by people from other countries who are ‘helping them’ to become westernised!) I’ve decided instead to focus on sharing my gift and what I know to be true. (Whether it eventually helps the NiVan people of Vanuatu or not, I’ll probably never know!)

Anyway, what I do know is that everyone has a unique purpose or dream that is good for us, good for others and good for the earth. When we share our gifts and follow our dreams we make a difference on earth that no one else can make! So theoretically if I share my gifts and dreams than through the ripple effect it will help, so here is my gift…

I understand how human beings work and I’m good at explaining it to kids and parents. On my holiday I read, ‘The Power of Your Subconscious Mind’ by Joseph Murphy, which was written in 1963 and while I was reading it I thought, ‘I would like to explain this simply to kids and parents’, so here goes…

Our subconscious beliefs create our life (*see references below).

The beliefs we hold in our subconscious are like magnets that attract into our lives exactly what we believe and feel strongly about.

We believe all sorts of things about ourselves, other people and life.

In terms of ourselves we have beliefs about our worthiness and our right to: safety, security, health, wealth, loving relationships, support, connection, adventure, opportunity, material possessions and fulfilment for instance.

Consider the difference between believing, “I am worthy of everything loving, beautiful and fulfilling in life” as opposed to, “I am worthy of surviving.”

Our beliefs about others influence our: relationships, trust, openness, honesty, integrity, expectations and behaviour. What would your relationships look like if you believed, “I can’t trust anyone” compared to, “Everyone is doing the best they can with what they know.”

Our beliefs about life affect our: attitude, behaviour, effort, resources, opportunities and in fact our entire life! Would you rather believe, “Life is an amazing and fulfilling adventure” or “Life is hard and unrewarding”?

The whole concept of Sparky and Shady was born out of a need to explain the differences in our potential thoughts and beliefs to kids. Once kids understand that they are capable of both extremes and they get the consequences of their beliefs – feeling good versus feeling bad, they have way more power over their choices.

We get our beliefs from the conscious thoughts we think over and over again – they go into our subconscious as truths. That’s because our subconscious believes everything we tell it to – it is not capable of logic, being rational or discerning the truth.

Our own thoughts come from what we hear, see, experience and assume (lovingly or fearfully) when we are with our parents, family, friends, teachers, society and culture from the time we were little until now.

Our beliefs are made stronger (or more magnetic) when they are accompanied by strong emotions that we have not expressed (and by holding more beliefs that are similar).

If you want to know what you believe in your subconscious right now, take a look at your life. Are you?




Following your dreams

In loving relationships with your partner, children, family and friends


Making a difference

If there is one area or more that you can’t tick off, then the fearful beliefs in your subconscious are limiting you and preventing you from having the amazing life you were born to live!

You are worthy of everything this amazing world and life has to offer. You are here to experience and bask in happiness, beauty, love, connection, contribution, wealth and health. You deserve everything! We all do!

In all honesty I’m still working on ‘wealth’. Our family trip to Vanuatu triggered my fear of ‘being rich’ (yes, you could say we are ‘rich’ because we went on a holiday to Vanuatu – but lets assume being ‘rich or wealthy’ means being able to have and do what you want when you want, just for arguments sake).

In my Shady’s opinion, rich foreigners are taking advantage of the NiVan people in their efforts to make a quick buck. In my Pit Stops I worked out that I believed that ‘rich’ people take more than they need, that they waste resources, wreck the earth and take advantage of others. With that belief (despite letting go of a heap of other beliefs about being ‘rich’) is it possible for me to ever be my definition of ‘rich’? No obviously not because I don’t want to be someone like that!

To change our subconscious beliefs about anything we have to:

  1. Acknowledge our belief – can’t change what you don’t admit
  2. Explore our old belief and see if it is helping us – mine certainly isn’t because if I were ‘rich’ I could help the NiVan in a respectful way
  3. Decide if we are ready to let it go – yep bring it on
  4. Express the feelings we had stored with that belief – I took a Pit Stop
  5. Let the old belief go – done in my Pit Stop
  6. Replace it with a helpful new belief – “Rich people can choose to do good for themselves, other people and the earth!”
  7. Affirm the new belief until it starts turning up in your life – when it does you know you believe it!

I think that’s it, other than a couple of references below to other authors who rave on about the power of the subconscious, and this gorgeous quote from Joseph Murphy about being rich (just in case you haven’t got the box ticked yet – I put this on my bathroom wall)…

“You are here to lead the abundant life and be happy, radiant and free. You should, therefore, have all the money you need to lead a full, happy, and prosperous life. Don’t let anyone make you feel doubtful or ashamed of your desire to be rich. At its deepest level, it is a desire for a fuller, happier, more wonderful life!”

Love Kathy

* There has been a lot written about our subconscious over the years and if you are interested you could search for books or website info from some of the following authors I have found, starting from the oldest: Hermes Trismegistus, Johann Goethe, Ralph Emerson, Henry Thoreau, James Allen, Florence Scovel Shinn, Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie, Norman Vincent Peale, Victor E. Frankl, Zig Ziglar, Joseph Murphy, Louise Hay, Thich Nhat Nanh, Wayne Dyer, Gary Zukav, Martin Seligman, Dan Millman, Deepak Chopra, Rhonda Byrne, Caroline Myss, Dan Siegel, Anthony Robbins, Norman Doidge and Shefali Tsabary.